Creative Curations


This will be a tough one to hear. Not only because we are guilty of shipping off our emotional packages to others, but because we are also guilty of accepting packages from others and then forming an even worse response to what was given to us. Someone else’s “Guilt Trip” is on a trip to our front door. Do I bring it into my home, open it and accept responsibility for the contents? Or do I refuse delivery? The choice is not always straight forward. Consider that accepting this package is like getting something from that you did not order. There it is, left at your door, and now you have a choice. If you didn’t order up this emotional response, then don’t sign for it. But, if you choose to accept it, then own it and don’t be tempted to return it back to the sender. If this package of guilt doesn’t belong to you, then it is the ownership of the sender to deal with, not your responsibility to figure out how to get this package back to them safe and sound. Don’t try to fix this for them. They need to alter the “address” themselves and address their own emotional response by pointing it to the correct place instead of shipping it off to someone else for them to deal with. The blame game for how someone else forms an emotional response does no good to the sender or the receiver of their emotional package. The sender renders themselves powerless to the receiver as they state it is the fault of the recipient for ordering up this package of emotions. Friends, no one has control over your emotions, but you do. How you choose to send out those packages is up to you, not others. How you choose to accept these same packages from others is ALSO UP TO YOU! You are in control, even if the delivery guy is trying their hardest to send things your way. How and when you choose to accept it is up to you. But be prepared to accept the consequences for the guilt trips you choose to lead, or follow along on. This quote perhaps states it best, “Blaming others may work in the short-term—but it is powerfully disempowering.” (Bernard Golden, Ph.D.)